But the VR .

I'm hurt really.
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How do I handle this ?
Idk what I'm asking really I rarely even post on anyting ever but he sent me the link to this website so here I am reaching out have any advice or input would be greatly appreciated" /> But the VR .

I'm hurt really.
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How do I handle this ?
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Omg. Yall .
My hubby has this whole virtual reality game system...
And yeah I caught him straight up having/watching Virtual Reality porn.

And according to him porn is natural for men...
Turning the issue into /
Like why am I even upset??

I put up with enough of his phone needs/addiction "2 get him in the mood" like straight trying to brain wash my morals? Convincing me that there's something wrong with me because EVERYONE watches porn...
But the VR .

I'm hurt really.
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How do I handle this ?
Idk what I'm asking really I rarely even post on anyting ever but he sent me the link to this website so here I am reaching out have any advice or input would be greatly appreciated

Kristal - 28yo - level 1

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8 months ago

People do watch porn, but no not everyone does and to me it sounds like it's a little more than the regular watcher the way he's defending it and getting defensive and trying to justify his actions. It sounds more like he's obsessed if he needs it to get in the mood. A normal healthy sexual relationship should not NEED porn to get in the mood. Sure porn can help or add to the fun but it should not be a constant in the bedroom. And even tho, as a woman, I enjoy porn (by myself and only when my SO is not available and I'm in the mood) but it's not something I need nor is it needed to be turned on. And I'm with you tho, if I caught my man watching it excessively or if I caught him doing it via VR I would be grossed out and completely turned off. I just had a similar convo with my SO, it's one thing to watch porn when your partner is not around or you are in the mood and they aren't, but if you have a partner readily available and completely willing I think it's kinda on the verge of disrespectful. Like what do you need the porn for if your partner, who you should be attracted to and turned on by, is right there and is down to get to your pleasure on. My only advice is to just talk to him about how you feel and if it's that serious maybe you should recommended some outside help or therapy for him, cuz it sounds like it's something if an issue that's beyond the realm of regular porn watching. Hope this helps.

Christina - 33yo - in a relationship for 1 year - Dating - level 27 -
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6 months ago

NO! theres nothing wrong with u. Just bc u feel some type of way over some thing that he may not agree with DOES NOT MAKE U CRAZY!! Im sure theres other issues u both dont agree on, right? So why is this any different? AND JUST TO PUT UT OUT THERE IN THE UNIVERSE.. NO I DO NOT WATCH PORN! Well other then our own. I dont need to look at something/some1 else to b turned on. I hbe the most amaxing man in the world & have wanted b with him since i was 8 years old & after 33 years we finally are together. I thank God everyday!! Now.... With me saying that, im n no way saying our relationship is perfect bc we hve our fights our issues like every1 else but he IS PERFECT FOR ME! To me theres no other man n this world. Im crazy head over heels over him & the thought of watching some1 else have sex sickens me. But thats my own opinion.

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8 months ago

Ok first of all, yes men watch porn. But what is not normal is you dealing with needing his phone etc to even get in the mood, that's downright disrespectful. To me sounds like one of two things or both. 1) he's watched porn from a very young age and therefore having unreal expectations for real sex. 2) sex addiction is a real thing. Unfortunately 90% of people addicted need help to stop. I think you need to think about how much you deserve more at this point.

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