4 months ago
I’m in a similar position, same time frame too - weird. It seems everything I do annoys her. When I express my concerns it feels like she silently punishes me by sharing less about her life and becoming more busy. She keeps telling me she loves me and it is starting to hurt. I feel so used. It’s hard to think we will ever go back to normal after the long term damage being caused. I feel like she is fundamentally changing the foundations of what our relationship was. Long story short. I reiterate the narrative to myself that you should be happy with just yourself. In the end everyone else will hurt you. Try to stop obsessing and caring so much about him/her - if they want to include you in their life they will make the effort. When they don’t and you are a side item then it’s clear what’s really important to them (hint, not you). My advice is to care for yourself, seek professional help else where for depressive tendencies. Treat yourself to Yoga & meditation, reading, more sunshine & exercise. Chances are your new found independence will make them more attracted to you...if it isn’t too late for them. Stay strong.
Ernie - 33yo - level 30 -