1 week ago
Recommend the book “Boundaries in marriage” - in order to have a long term successful relationship, there’s certain things required from each partner to ensure the security and stability of both partners. His behavior is unacceptable, and sometimes adults, much like a toddler, need to be reminded that there are consequences to our actions and be held accountable. It’s sometimes really hard to do that with someone we love, but when one partner has proven through their actions they don’t care or don’t value / respect you, Consequences are a must for behavior to change.
Ryan Gardner - 34yo - level 5 -
Don’t feel bad about it - though that’s hard, because you have so much value. clearly in this instance, his behavior, more importantly, betrayal of you, and trust, has been fractured and it seems as though he’s pretty arrogant about it - as if he has all the power and “what are you gonna do” type mentality. Life will really slap him in the face once day, but he deserves, in my opinion, no more of your time or effort.
Once those boundaries are broken, and infidelity happens, reconciling the relationship takes a lot of intensive counseling, and even then it’s not got a high success rate.
Wish you the best, pretty clear that he doesn’t value who you are or your loyalty, which is unfortunate.