8 months ago
I am going through the same thing. Married for 13 years in December, with 3 children. I have been dealing with it for a few years now. He started with random conversation, then moved onto meeting other women for coffee and having long drawn out conversations through the night while I was at work. Eventually, he moved on to a physical relationship with an acquaintance of mine and dear friend of his mother's. I did not see any issues in our marriage. If he wanted it he got it, wether that be a new boat or motorcycle, attention or cuddles, love or sex. His wishes were my commands, but mine were not his. It came to a head this past December two weeks before our anniversary. I now find myself very insecure and jealous, where he doesn't seem to have any issues. He says he is sorry for what he has done and will never do it again...but I don't want him around other women period, the trust is gone. When I tell him how I feel I'm "overreacting". We tried marriage counseling a couple years ago, when I suspected but didn't know, he went and blew it off, we haven't been back. I'm still stuck in the "maybe I am the issue phase" but am still giving it all I have. I wish you the best, know you aren't alone. If you need someone to vent to, well I'm here, patiently hoping things work out for the both of us.
Stephanie - 31yo - level 31 -