Do you think past relationship secrets should always be kept hidden?

The past is the past unless the secret effects the present in which case it shouldnt be hidden

Patrick - 23yo - level 29 -

4

Never keep secrets, if your feeling tempted, ask yourself why? I think it helps both of you to talk about it, because A-you don't have to worry about them finding out about it B-it helps you to understand why your last relationship failed and C-it helps both of you understand each other and how to make your relationship better, kind of the main goal of this app right? by all means, find the right time, but the longer you wait the stronger your feelings grow and the more it hurts the other person when you tell them. Hope that helps.

Catherine - 33yo - level 12 -

3

Depends on If that secret pertains to them or not.

Chris - 30yo - level 5 -

3

No ,its better to be honest.

Carolann - 55yo - level 5 -

2

Depends on the secret

Robert - 38yo - level 29 -

2

No, revealing mistakes creates trust

Jason - 38yo - level 12 -

1

Depends on The relationship and your comfortability in that relationship and the confidence you have with your partner. Though it is nice to know everything about your loved one, sometimes depending on where the both individuals are at with themselves and in the relationship some things are just better left unsaid and some questions are just better left unasked. Often times you will find jealousy will rise quickly and can oftentimes lead to ulterior conflicts within one's confidence or even the relationship itself. So like I said it all depends on where you both are at in the relationship and how much trust and confidence do you have in that individual

Zack - 23yo - level 2 -

1

Yes. Unless it directly impacts or affects your current partner.

Carina - level 8 -

1

It depends on whether the subject or person pertaining to the secret affects your future

Kellie - 38yo - level 19 -

1

I don't see the need or reason for the past to be spoken in detail. It's obvious that your partner should know things than to hear from someone else.. Certain secrets kept within yourself may work out positive, than invite unecessary tensions n nuisances. But if it anywhere effects your present relationship, then I guess it's best for her to know..

Veeraj - 30yo - level 17 -

1

No they can be told.

Melissa - level 3 -

0

No

Jody - 45yo - level 6 -

0

Depends, not everything is essential to the present. Being honest about the past is important , if asked, but no need to over share all things

DeSean - 35yo - level 6 -

0

No they shouldnt if it affects the present

0

There are some things that can be shared but, just as you hope your ex would keep some things secret, so should you.
Even if your ex is running off at the mouth, getting even just drops you to the same level.
My advice, if there's any possibility that someone, be it your current partner, your ex or even you, let the past stay quietly buried.

Danielle - 57yo - level 5 -

0

To me it just depends on the person you in a relationship with. If you all have a understanding from the start to not feel a certain way afterwards then it shouldn't be an issue.

Cordero - 29yo - level 23 -

0

People should be honest...

Benny - 22yo - level 12 -

0

If comes up its better be honest not try to hide

Eagle - 40yo - level 17 -

0

Nope

Chiimeh - 26yo - level 11 -

0

Regardless of how much I love my significant other, if Im able to expose all my flaws and she still accepts me in my full vulnerability, Im gonna love her more for that

Nova - 35yo - level 7 -

0

Never

Michale - 31yo - level 12 -

0

No way

Nettie - 35yo - level 24 -

0

It all depends. The past is the past.

Latoya - 38yo - level 2 -

0

no....bec.its already done

cristy - 29yo - level 7 -

0

This one is actually quite simple. If it can catch up to you just tell your partner. if it doesn't then it shouldn't be an issue to talk about it in the first place.

Markus - 28yo - level 18 -

0

If it's something that will effect the current relationship, yes.

Ashley - 23yo - level 34 -

0

The secret was between you and your last lover, so yes

Jennifer - level 11 -

0

No you should always be open

Gregory - 24yo - level 12 -

0

No. Not a big fan of secrets

Jonathan - 35yo - level 16 -

0

It's best to be honest IF it is brought up. My spouse would rather not know.

Casey - 39yo - level 20 -

0

No

Bobbie - 42yo - level 31 -

0

Depends on the secret. If it's trivial, leave it in the past. If not, make the courageous step to share it. It will be better in the long run.

Duane - level 19 -

0

No

Sharon - 25yo - level 11 -

0

If the secret will affect your future with your partner, you should reveal them

0

No never.

Kaenin - 39yo - level 29 -

0

Never lie to your partner but sometimes the truth can be unsettling and an inaccurate representation of who you are today. We have all done stupid things (and people!)

Nicholas - 26yo - level 15 -

0

No way.

Sam - 38yo - level 24 -

0

They should never be kept hidden.

Cesar - 37yo - level 14 -

0

No way

Christina - 33yo - level 14 -

0

It depends on the secret and how it pertains to the current relationship

Kristin - 28yo - level 23 -

0

Depends if it would or could effect the current relationship or not

Tina - 33yo - level 2 -

0

No

Melissa - 28yo - level 10 -

0

Yes

Meredith - 33yo - level 4 -

0

Don't ask don't tell

Sabrina - 36yo - level 9 -

0

No because trust issues are what tears most relationships apart..so if you hide something from your spouse and then it comes to light one day then that is when the trust issue becomes the problem

Rusty - 40yo - level 18 -

0

NO. Honesty is the foundation of a healthy relationship.

Rachel - 24yo - level 3 -

0

No.. It's the past but it's not to be be kept secret or lied about.. But don't blab unless it's necessary.. But if it arises answer honestly.. If your dishonest the truth always comes out covering stuff up to protect someone's feelings just creates dishonesty and trust issues.

Jenna - 33yo - level 2 -

0

They should always be disclosed at a high level, but not necessary every detail.

Philip - 41yo - level 18 -

0

No I think honesty at the door would be best.

Helen - 36yo - level 2 -

0

Never

Conor - 34yo - level 20 -

0

Being open is best

Keith ferguson - 59yo - level 22 -

0

Depends on how it effects your current

Charles - 26yo - level 21 -

0

No

maud - 23yo - level 12 -

0

No. If they can aid in building at strong bond with you patented now. I dont see any harm.

Karen - 51yo - level 1 -

0

No

Borys feldman - 25yo - level 26 -

0

Never! A relationship built on secrets can never get through.

Himanshi - 26yo - level 1 -

0

No I don't. I dont think everything is black and white. I mean bring up what you feel like you want to bring up but unless you're prompted you don't have to bring it up.

Shoshanna - 26yo - level 4 -

0

I believe the past is in the past, but at the same time, I believe in complete honesty. So, the past doesn't need to be brought up, but if it comes up, just be honest.

Natalie - 47yo - level 6 -

0

I will take all secrets to the grave.

Shuv - 38yo - level 41 -

0

Keep it a secert unless your partner asked then yes tell tell tell

Josh - 34yo - level 12 -

0

If you guys want secrets in your relationship... I don't, but I'm not in your relationship

SN - 24yo - level 26 -

0

Not always depends on what it is

Paige - 24yo - level 5 -

0

Yes

Savana - 17yo - level 7 -

0

No

Billy - 60yo - level 26 -

0

No I think they should be known so you get a full sense of who they are.

0

Depends. Use your best judgment to determine if the secret is worth honoring. Nothing you divulge should have any ramifications on your past partner’s life. Also use your best judgment on who you are divulging the secret too. This is one of those questions that should be handled on a case-by-case evaluation.

Lex - level 21 -

0

Nope

Jimena - 27yo - level 13 -

0