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My husband and I have been together 10 years. He performed oral all the time with no issues... But lately, his lips swell, becoming painful 2 days after... And the reaction last at least a week. Seriously, it's happened every time for the past 3 months.
I've been to the doctors twice, no stds, no infections. He's been to the doctor with no luck... He's been tested, Clean. I've always used the same soap, nothing has changed in that aspect.
I dont understand it, it's been frustrating since oral is the only way I can have an orgasim and actually get going. Which means I'm sexually frustrated, don't want to be touched, and constantly worry about infecting him.

I have tried to change soaps, hoping it was an allergic reaction. No luck. Tried after showering... Still happened. Any advice, ideas?

Brittany - 31yo - level 21

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1 year ago

I'd suggest going to the toy store togetherand getting a good vibrator. Take him with you so he feels included. Get something small, like a little bullet that you can use in yourself while he's penetrating you. That way you both can have an orgasm.

melissa - 33yo - level 7 -
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1 year ago

Sounds like a stubble problem. Try waxing instead of shaving

Scotty - 31yo - level 10 -
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1 year ago

I was also going to guess something that you've eaten that he is allergic to.
Could you possibly have a UTI, yeast, or bacterial infection (wouldn't show up on an STD test)?
Hopefully you find an answer soon.

Elizabeth - level 1 -
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1 year ago

I have had everything checked... Literally, everything. No uti, no yeast, no bacterial. She even put me on an antibiotic to make sure if wasn't anything.

Brittany - 31yo - level 21 -
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1 year ago

Kind of a side note, but you seriously can't get off with anything but oral? You don't masturbate? You don't have any toys? You don't give him any kind of direction when you are having sex? You don't play with your clit while you're having sex? Sorry to be a little graphic, but there are lots.of ways to have an orgasm.

Jim - 48yo - level 28 -
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7 months ago

Yeah there is , you just need to relax and enjoy i think of my husband and him entering me gets me going and I have a few orgasm just wth penetration, and then with him playing with my clit, and when he enters me with his fingers finding my G spot and omg mind blowing . never did get off on oral tho .

Quintana - 43yo - in a relationship for 12 years - Married - 2 - Ceres ca, United States - level 11 -
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1 year ago

With everything being cleared through the doctor, it almost sounds like it is a psychosomatic response that his body is giving off. Are there other things going on in the relationship that are causing stress or things that are not being discussed? Is he experiencing any stress at work or in other areas of his life that he's not opening up about?

Tara - 42yo - level 17 -
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1 year ago

Sounds like pussy stubs. Get that stuff WAXED.

Antonio - 21yo - level 8 -
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1 year ago

Time for a check up for u both and Some old school dental dam my help best of luck 💜🖤💙1luv

Oozy - 30yo - Dating - level 8 -
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1 year ago

It could be the ph balance of your vagina is different than what it has been before and that's what is irritating his lips.

Alisha - 33yo - level 41 -
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1 year ago

If the pH balance changed that much it would be from an infection. Vaginas don't just change pH for fun. So if she's had all that checked out, it's not that

Sam - 19yo - level 45 -
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5 months ago

Actually the ph does change based on menstrual cycle and the presence of semen.

Kyla - 36yo - level 22 -
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5 months ago

Also the human body goes thru changes physically every seven years as well, so it's probably a combination of this bodily change and the psychosomatic effect from stress, that stuff can kill ya. But I also kinda went thru this problem with my girl we just chalked it up to I'm allergic to her, but seriously we've had the same thing occure, once everything relaxes enough at home or work I'm sure everything will be fine..

James - 39yo - level 5 -
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1 year ago

Probably have a yest infection or bacterial infection its normal

Heather - 29yo - level 12 -
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1 year ago

I have had everything checked... Literally, everything. No uti, no yeast, no bacterial. She even put me on an antibiotic to make sure if wasn't anything.

Brittany - 31yo - level 21 -
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1 year ago

For starters, don't wash mucous areas with soap! It destroys the pH balance. Just water is all the pussy needs.

Isabella - 41yo - level 20 -
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1 year ago

........ get checked out

Mo - 35yo - level 1 -
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1 year ago

something you're personally eating he's probably allergic to and it's coming out through you. Have you been eating a certain food a lot lately?

Sabrina - 36yo - level 9 -
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1 year ago

I was thinking the same thing.

Elizabeth - 39yo - level 32 -
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1 year ago

I started a new medication... Could that have an effect?

Brittany - 31yo - level 21 -
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1 year ago

Absolutely that could have an effect! Everyone's body chemistry changes over time and adding a new medication to your system could definitely be affecting him physically.

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5 months ago

Try eating lots of pineapple before hand.

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9 months ago

Do you shave? Cuz it could be possible stubble or the hair. I know at certain times in my mans facial hair growing when I kiss him my face starts getting all splotchy and red and sometimes even itchy.

Christina - 33yo - in a relationship for 1 year - Dating - level 27 -
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1 year ago

Your secreting something that he's allergic to maybe something in your diet has changed or he has become allergic to something in your diet if not I suggest he uses a dental dam

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1 year ago

Keep investigating but as oozy said, use a dental dam in the mean time! If that doesnt work for you i’d do as someone else suggested and get a sex toy to help you orgasm. Good luck!

Chloé - 26yo - level 52 -
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1 year ago

What about gonorrhea?

Sandee - 45yo - level 39 -
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1 year ago

She said they have both been checked and there is no STD or UTI or yeast infection of any kind. I seriously don't understand why people don't read the entire post before they reply.

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9 months ago

Right? It's annoying seeing the responses of ignorance.

Christina - 33yo - in a relationship for 1 year - Dating - level 27 -
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