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How long should you date before you get married?

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3 months ago

Until you're ready. Everyone's different. There's no perfect formula we all can follow. When you know, you know :)

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3 months ago

As long or as little as it takes. I'd care more what deep questions you've discussed in your time. Do you both follow God? Want a family? That tends to take at least half a year.

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3 months ago

You need time to see them model what they say

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3 months ago

When you can’t live without them emotionally, physically. And an argument doesn’t kill your love.

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3 months ago

Agreed

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2 months ago

Agree

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3 months ago

at least 1 year

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3 months ago

There shouldn't be a time limit. I guess the best way to answer that is when your both ready. I knew I wanted to be with my wife the rest of my life the moment I met her and if she would of I would of married her that day but she wasn't ready until 7 years later but I think everyone is different

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3 months ago

Depends on how quickly you build intimacy, how much you see each other, what you're looking for, what marriage means to you, your culture, etc.

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3 months ago

Atleast 5 years

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3 months ago

There is no answer to that question

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3 months ago

At least 4 years

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3 months ago

At least 3 years

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3 months ago

3 years

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3 months ago

I can feel it when the time comes. No matter if after one month or one year

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3 months ago

Long enough to know that you are committed to each other...

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2 months ago

I would have said you'd need to be living together for at least 18 months

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3 months ago

No correct answer.

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3 months ago

Until he is ready because I already know where I want to be for the rest of my life and it's by his side.

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3 months ago

Statistics show that waiting 6 months significantly decreases your likelihood of divorce, beyond that.. Everyone is different 🤷🏻‍♀️

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3 months ago

Until you're ready, everyone is different

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3 months ago

At least a year

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3 months ago

3 years or live 6 months together for trial run, seriously, you dont know someone until youve lived with them...

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3 months ago

At least 1 year. Going through 4 seasons with someone gives you time to bring out any issues that will tell you whether you are truly compatible. But if you’re not sure about marrying someone after 2 years, chances are there’s something fundamentally wrong deep down.

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3 months ago

I believe there is no set amount of time. Every person and relationship is different. If you and your partner want to at any point in your relationship, I say go for it.

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3 months ago

You should at least celebrate one anniversary and after that, when both parties feel ready, the marriage procedure can be started.
I want it bc I'm sick of ldr but I know I'm actually not ready and neither is he

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3 months ago

Go off what you feel, but at least a year

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3 months ago

At least a year
6months dating and 6monts staying together
Then consider marriage

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3 months ago

You'll know when you're ready

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3 months ago

Until you’ve gotten over what seems like the biggest thing you’ve ever had to deal with.

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3 months ago

It is not necessary to get married

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3 months ago

We dated 3 yrs. But knew each other for 10 yrs.

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3 months ago

When it feels right

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3 months ago

Give it at least 1-2 years. You'll feel like you know them 100% and then you realize the relationship still needs to grow

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3 months ago

Everyone is different. 1-2 years at minimum.

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3 months ago

When you are ready and have no doubts about your relationship!

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3 months ago

When it feels right

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3 months ago

I don't believe in marriage. So forever?

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3 months ago

As long as it takes for both to feel comfortable in making a lifelong commitment

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3 months ago

A minimum of 3 years. Infatuation fades quickly, but limerence, a low key version of infatuation, can last up to 3 years. Studies show that partners who are still in the limerence stage of their relationship have difficulty acknowledging their partner's flaws and may get a nasty surprise when the honeymoon is over.

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3 months ago

A lifetime!

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3 months ago

When you know deep down that you'll stay together until the end. However, you should never marry anyone before living together for at least half a year!

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3 months ago

Too soon(less than 6 months) or too late(more than 2 years) will make your relationship more challenging.

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3 months ago

There's no "right" amount of time. Everyone's different and will know when they're ready.

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3 months ago

If you feel that it's time and you see all proc and cons and accept it.

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3 months ago

Depends on the both of you. When the time is right both of you will want to.

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3 months ago

Whenever it feels right.

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3 months ago

It depends on the individuals and the strength and seriousness to their commitment

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3 months ago

Well I was with my ex husband for 8 years and then got married. We were still together for 5 more years and 3 kids later. But divided after those 5 years. I don't think the 1st few months u even really know your other half at all yet. A year in the relationship you get to know each other decent to maybe live together but wouldn't marry them yet at this time. 3 or 4 years later the 2 of u could be like 2 different people now and don't want to get married to someone to only get a divorce from them to. Because these r both expensive. The way that people are in our society today, I do not believe 3 people can be just for each other. That's because you can't hardly trust anyone now. If one has that one time they have a connection with someone else, then their relationship will never be the same. It's always a battle anymore. Instead of being a team together it just seems to be a problem, or an argument or they end up farther apart then getting closer to one another.

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3 months ago

Enough to know each other

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3 months ago

As long as it takes for you to feel confident with your partner's attitude and perspective.

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3 months ago

2 years

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3 months ago

There is no cookie cutter answer for that question. It is different for each couple. What works for one couple, may not work on the next. When the time is right, you will know...

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3 months ago

Until you feel 5hat your both ready

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3 months ago

5 years seems right to me

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3 months ago

I didnt get married until 7 years after I started dating my husband. Everyone is different

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3 months ago

If you are sharing the same values, you may be ready earlier to commit yourself together. The same values and shared dreams make it easier to see your whole life together. The love deepens by time anyway. Commitment is an essential part of relationship! Marriage is a great gift!

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3 months ago

It totally depends on situation ,the connection and many other factors ...I fell in love with cayne when I first seen him

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3 months ago

For me 1 year. But it can be changed for the situation and feelings. Nothing has 100% answer.

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3 months ago

For me 1 year. But it can be changed

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3 months ago

Everyone's different, as is everyone's relationship, but i would say about 5 to 6 years personally

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3 months ago

When u know u are truly committed to one another.

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3 months ago

There is no real answer for this.. It's all in how your heart truly feels.

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3 months ago

Whenever ur emotionally and financially ready. There will be times when u r but u see the lack of maturity in ur partner

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3 months ago

I think it varies person to person. It also depends on whether you feel you've found the right person and many other personal factors in life.
For some people, it could be a few months and for other's, it could be even 10 years!! It all depends on your commitment to that person.

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3 months ago

Depends. When you know, you just know

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3 months ago

Time is irrelevant, connections can take forever to form or just a second.

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3 months ago

It's depends
I think we should not go everywhere before wedding , usually the relationship is become less romantic after wedding so i think we should date after wedding to increase the romantic of relationship

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3 months ago

When you feel its the right time

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3 months ago

When the time is right. First husband took almost six years, second husband 8 weeks.

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3 months ago

If you know you know could be 1 month could be 10 years

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3 months ago

When you are both ready for the next stage in life together.

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3 months ago

No timetable some people date for weeks and stay married a lifetime some date for years and divorce in less than a year. If you're ready and if they're ready than it's time

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3 months ago

It's not about an arbitrary timeline, really. It's more about where you both are in life. You should DEFINITELY live together at least 6 months first and be together more than a year, though. Ideally, 1 year together but living separate + 1 year living together. I speak from experience.

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3 months ago

Until you are ready but there is no need to rush things so at least a year in my opinion.

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3 months ago

10 yrs

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3 months ago

Year

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3 months ago

It’s so different for each person. My husband and I were together 8 years before we got married. And 2 years later divorced. My current SO and I have been together nearly a year and I know he is the one for me.

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3 months ago

1 year as an adult(25+)
5 years any younger.

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3 months ago

I would say at least after a year and even better once you experience living with the person

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3 months ago

Hmmm....depends but you need to know the person very well....not set time but I would say 2 years of knowing the person

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3 months ago

Until u r ready. But dont just date to date. Date with the purpose of deciding if this is the person u should marry. Its makes conversations and actions intentionally. You'll know pretty quick

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3 months ago

Right now

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3 months ago

At least two years for starters , however me and my husband gave it 4 years before getting married.

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3 months ago

Depend how ready we are,
Even it only a month if we ready for everything why not?

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3 months ago

Follow your gut. Communication is the key

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3 months ago

3 to 5 years.... there r breaking points in relationships

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3 months ago

It's different for everyone, you can be with a person for years but when it comes to marriage talk, you don't see yourself with that person, so, time doesn't matter really, you just have to know that person, one month, one year, it's the same, if you feel love if you are commited to that relationship, go ahead, just be aware and conscious about what you are doing and don't forget to don't listen negative comments for people, it's your life, your happiness, that choice just depends on your girlfriend and you. Greetings

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3 months ago

Agree with a lot of these answers. Time isn’t the important factor.

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3 months ago

A year at minimum

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3 months ago

Long enough to know each other and it feels right to want to commit to this person forever.

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3 months ago

At least 12 months

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3 months ago

When everything in you feels that it is just right.

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3 months ago

I guess it just depends on age and the situation...

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3 months ago

It's different for everyone, but I would say give it at least a year or more.

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3 months ago

Until it feels right... no less than a year

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3 months ago

1 year+

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3 months ago

Long friendship, medium length dating relationship, short engagement, marriage.

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3 months ago

if your happy and ready for the commitment than go for gold but me personally at least two years minimum that way you know each others personalities what they like and dont like and what not

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3 months ago

A minimum of 18 months. Studies show that is how long it takes to actually get to know someone outside of the rose colored glasses of the honeymoon phase!

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