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What are your thoughts on, "manscaping?" Although I've asked (many times), my boyfriend refuses to shave down below. I've even suggested just trimming would be a start, and he won't. While I'm expected to maintain my nether regions (which I've always done because it's my personal preference), he refuses!

Tara - 42yo - level 17

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4 months ago

It should be equal, if he refuses than you should give him a taste of his own medicine

Yesenia - 23yo - level 4 -
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4 months ago

I like this response. What goes around comes around

Melody - 59yo - level 16 -
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4 months ago

Stop visiting the area till it’s user friendly and he’ll change pretty quick.

Bryan - 45yo - level 34 -
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4 months ago

I don't get why anyone wouldn't shave or at least trim. It just collects sweat, looks bad and is a turn off for most women (in my experience). Even with that set aside he should do it just because you have the feelings you do on the subject. If he's not willing to do something so easy to make you happy. Then drop the boy and find a man.

Adam - 30yo - level 9 -
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4 months ago

What's good for the goose is good for the gander

Christy - 23yo - level 9 -
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4 months ago

As a guy, I was really hesitant as well. But, if he cares at all about your feelings, he’ll at least be open to trying it. ... and as most guys here have said, once he does, he might keep it that way.

Michael - 43yo - level 33 -
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4 months ago

Initially I did it to surprise my wife, but ultimately I have kept it shaved because it feels cooler and cleaner.

You might also mention to him that it will give the appearance of another inch. 😆

Lynn - 55yo - level 4 -
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4 months ago

I have 2 suggestions; either Stop Shaving until he does or stop returning the "favor". 🤷🏾‍♀️ it won't be long until he is willing to compromise lol

Sabrina - 36yo - level 9 -
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4 months ago

It’s only fair if you do it then he should as well. I’ve always done it because who wants to look like they have Don King in a leg lock? The 1970’s pornstar look is way past it’s prime. I’d stop shaving and when he questions you, tell him you’ll shave/trim as soon as he does.

Matt - 34yo - level 24 -
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4 months ago

It should be your choice and his choice. If you don't want to, then don't, same with him. If you two can't accept each other's opinions on how to take care of yourself down there, then there's some other tissues at play

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4 months ago

Well a little bribery goes a long way lol, why don't you offer him a blow job if he cleans it up down there lol. Either that, or let yours grow out lol. I'm sure he'll change his tune in no time lol. Relationships or give and take right? It's a double standard. My man doesn't care, and neither do I, but I do notice that when I start complimenting him on the things he does that I like he does them more ;) beard hair and ball fro lol.

Catherine - 33yo - level 12 -
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4 months ago

Maybe you can make it fun and help him do it and show him.a incentive immediately after if u get what i mean 😉

Oozy - 29yo - Dating - level 7 -
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4 months ago

Yes! This worked for me.

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3 months ago

Dopeness 💪🏾💪🏾💙💜

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4 months ago

Definitely manscape. I have been for 20 years and would never go back, it's much more higenic and a nicer feeling for your partner, also have been told it's much more visual appealing.

Chris - 33yo - level 4 -
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4 months ago

I think men should do the same. It's about mutual respect in that region...

Courtney - 38yo - level 15 -
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4 months ago

Hygiene and grooming is key!!! I agree we take care of ourselves, they need to do the same....just a trim.....

Brandi - 30yo - level 17 -
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4 months ago

I feel both partners should landscape. Not just for their partner, but health care as well

Tameerah - 31yo - level 17 -
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4 months ago

I do it 🤷‍♂️ I dont know how I'd expect it from her if I didnt. I will say that most men have a size or masculinity insecurity that keeps them from manscaping. He has to love every bit of himself and feel comfortable to know that you do too in order to shave it.. However, relationships are 2 part.. so if he wont then you shouldn't have to.

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4 months ago

Shave that Shit!!

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4 months ago

For me personally my man does have to keep it clean. Not smooth to the skin like me, but when I give him oral, which is most every day at least once, I don’t want to come back up feeling like I have dental floss jammed in my teeth. MANSCAPE IS A MUST!!

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4 months ago

It's important

Quincey - 28yo - level 6 -
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4 months ago

If he expects something if you, it’s reasonable to expect the same... or similar of him. Personal hygiene... and generally.

Andrea - 37yo - level 29 -
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4 months ago

Definitely manscape!

Borys feldman - 25yo - level 26 -
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4 months ago

There's no reason not to, just being lazy.

Hunter - 32yo - level 21 -
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4 months ago

Always nicer giving oral to a man that is closely trimmed. Can get much more into it.

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5 months ago

I don’t know what it is about guys, but I was hesitant at first as well. Now I can’t imagine letting the grass go wild ever again. I think if you can get him to at least try it, he’ll be sold. Tell him it will make his junk look bigger, and make your next love coupon a trim when you win your next level.

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4 months ago

In my case, he doesn't care what I do with my parts. Nothing has stopped him yet! Haha. I've asked him to trim for me and he complies because he doesn't care. He may not always remember due to life stuff, but he will. If it's something that makes me comfortable, he works with me on it. In any area of our relationship.

Marina - 29yo - level 14 -
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4 months ago

In today's changing society its jus more attractive when a man grooms his body unless you prefer duck dynasty type men....ouch!!!

Debi - 47yo - level 1 -
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4 months ago

Never ask someone to do something you won't do yourself. If he won't you shouldn't be expected to either.

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4 months ago

My body, my choice? For men? Nah.... Haha jk. Interesting though.

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4 months ago

I think it would be helpful here to ask him about why he doesn't want to trim or shave. If you two could resolve that reason, it would solve the problem.

You could also explain why it is important to you. You could talk about how it feels for you to be "expected" to do maintenance yourself when he "refuses" to do anything.

I would suggest this great resource on difficult conversations: http://www.fscanada.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/Difficult-Conversations-Summary.pdf

Elias - 21yo - level 12 -
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4 months ago

Well both my wife and I are shaved down there no hair at all and we live it that way because no one likes the feeling of hair in there mouth. It also shows the other person that we care about ourselves and it makes a women feel the skin to skin warm feeling.. which is very sexy

McLegend - 33yo - level 15 -
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4 months ago

Sit down with him and talk to him about your needs

Akshat - 18yo - level 23 -
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4 months ago

Weed whacker clean it up

Mark - 52yo - level 19 -
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4 months ago

Offer to do it for him the first time. If he like most guys, he won't say no to you fondling his junk for whatever reason

William - 37yo - level 29 -
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4 months ago

Tell him if you help it would get even more rock hard!

John - 70yo - level 6 -
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4 months ago

A must . Makes everything cleaner and more enjoyable

Norm - 42yo - in a relationship for 11 years - Married - Defiance Ohio, United States - level 44 -
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4 months ago

While there is no tit for tat in a relationship, you could forego your razor till he tries his but, there is always the chance of backfire.
My suggestion is to inform him that the
Primary reason male pornstars shave is that, it makes "Little Willy" look like "The Big Wonka"!

Danielle - 57yo - level 5 -
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4 months ago

It's just something you got to respect, you shave because it's your preference and not for him

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4 months ago

Unfotunately, in the patriarchy, men are allowed to be filthy and hairy but women are expected to be perfect and hairless. I would say stop shaving down there. Then let him know you'd love to give him oral if he shaved

Emily - 28yo - level 5 -
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4 months ago

Ok I just turned older than dirt, I've shaved on and over the the years reasons to shave its cooler in the summer, my wife likes it and you enjoy sex more! You feel more of her and she doesn't need to worry, I am going to get a hair between my teeth.

Billy - 60yo - level 26 -
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4 months ago

It is 100% necessary and rude to expect head and not be nice and tidy

Mark Nichols - 32yo - level 2 -
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4 months ago

if nothing else, it's a hygienic issue. keep it clean and less sweaty!

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4 months ago

I don't care if my boyfriend does and he also doesn't care if I do. I do it because it doesn't feel good to have hair imo but he does because he thinks I want him to
Point is, if he expects it of you he should do it too and if he didn't then you shouldn't care too much about it do what you're comfortable with it isn't easy shaving down there anyway

Princess - 21yo - level 41 -
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4 months ago

Tell him it’ make his goods appear larger.

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4 months ago

Trim it don't skim it.

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4 months ago

It's rude and unfair to flat out refuse without a really good reason. A relationship is all about compromise and "love is the absence of duty". I'd ask him why he's not willing, if it's health (or safety ✂️) related that's reasonable, but if it's just because it's extra upkeep... you deserve better 💪😊

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4 months ago

As a guy, the first time I did it, I was terrified. However, it does have a "clean" feeling afterwards. Just explain that he should at least try it and see how he feels about it afterwards. If he hates it, he can let it be from then on.

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4 months ago

Grass on the field turn him over and play in the mud.

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4 months ago

Remember that relationships are not battle grounds. Being manipulative or passive agressive isn't going to solve your problem. This is an adult relationship so I would recommend talking to him directly. Is there a specific reason he is against manscaping? Open the conversation calmly - "Seek first to understand before being understood"

Trish - 34yo - level 47 -
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4 months ago

I agree with this!!! http://www.fscanada.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/Difficult-Conversations-Summary.pdf

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4 months ago

I believe the choice should be your own about whether to cut it or not, but if it’s super hairy and bushy, maybe a little trim around the member on the man is in order. For personal reasons of course. 😜

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4 months ago

I would stop maintaining mine until he agreed to do it.

Erica - 39yo - level 36 -
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4 months ago

I feel there is a reason why we have hair down there. It is healthy not to shave, both for the humans and planet.

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4 months ago

I once had an ex who told me if she could keep it smooth then so could I. Nobody wants hair in their teeth.

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4 months ago

I'm in the same situation. He has no problem shaving- he did it once- just lazy. Honestly, if he's not willing to put forth the effort into something as easy as just trimming... I'm beginning to think it's a microcosm of our relationship. He wants/expects things of me that don't apply to him, to get him to do anything for me I have to ask like 100x- then he puts forth minimum effort (then accuses me of being impossible to please if I call him out) His laziness/selfishness is a total turn off. Why don't some guys understand that doing nice/thoughtful/selfless things for their S.O. can be a very easy way to show love AND is often mutually beneficial!?!???

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4 months ago

If you are having so many problems (i dont know if you are, it just sounds like it) than you should probably 1. Sit him down and calmly tell him how you feel 2. Suggest either couples theropy if youre not already it in or 3. If nothing works then threaten him with something, either no sex or something bigger. (I dont if youre married so i didnt want to say break up but sometimes it comes to that) please dont start with 3, thats when nothing has worked. Some people need to change for the better and after you lightly tap their backs enough you just need to push them both of one of ny Uncles was in the same boat and he cleaned up his act really quick after she threatened to leave. So just try to have an open coversation and remember to let him speak, its a 2 way road and you both need to reach your destination.

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4 months ago

That sounds really rough for you! I think he should value your feelings more than his actions are indicating. I suggest this resource: http://www.fscanada.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/Difficult-Conversations-Summary.pdf

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4 months ago

If You are excepted to stay near down there then he should too. It is like having mutual respect for each other. Nobody wants to deal with a hairy disaster when it’s time to get close with one another.

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4 months ago

No manscaping. No head.

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5 months ago

At the end of the day, it's his body. If he isn't asking you to change the way you take care of your body, it's not fair to expect the same thing from him.

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4 months ago

Didn't you read the question, she has a problem because he expects that of herself but no of himself.

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