5 days ago
Realistically speaking, his blatant denial sounds deal-breaking. Imagine if roles were reversed - you were doing something covertly and he approached you with evidence and you still denied it. That’s not what respectful partners do to each other.
Following Dave’s advice seems most practical. It will help you with a game plan for what to do, whether it’s reconciliation, marriage counseling, personal counseling, or no longer continuing the relationship. Keep your mental and emotional health first.
Since having that conversation with his emails, he has had every waking moment to approach you for the truth. How many times have you had the conversation? I would press into it more, until you really feel his pushback and know he is not willing to work.
What led you to look in his emails in the first place? Were you always looking? Did a feeling bring you there? Have you been lied to in the past in a similar way? Think about your headspace in this as well. If you have a friend who is unbiased and will not share this with others, I’d find someone who knows your situation and relationship dynamic well to help you answers some of these questions.
I wish you the best