1 year ago
A few things to point out.
Jenna - 22yo - level 35 -
Firstly, what are these signs? And are they really signs that she's being unfaithful, or are they signs that's she's just been very busy. Unfortunately, in the end, unless you have a definite reason, you have to trust what she's saying is truthful. I've seen it too many times when one partner is too busy in their personal life, the other starts making accusations.
Now on that note, the second thing to point out is that in every relationship, it's important to talk about and discuss these things. If you're feeling uncomfortable about a situation, your partner should be able to recognize that and take the time to explain to you what's going on, and make sure you're feeling at ease. It's one thing to say I love you, and another thing to sit down and actually explain your feelings to someone.
I can't emphasize enough how important it is to have trust in a relationship. And contrary to what some believe, checking your partner's phone - in my opinion - is not trust. Now, that said, your partner should have nothing to hide, and when asked, they should be willing to show you. But understand if they are being faithful, this may be very hurtful for them to hear.
All in all, you are in a difficult situation. There's no right answer. There's no 'leave her' or 'stay'. And there's no definite way to handle this. Try to approach her with a calm concern. Tell her how you're feeling first, and that you're worried about you two together as a collective. Keeping these feelings to yourself is also hurtful. In the end, if you care for her, you need to sort this through.
This is just some general thought. I hope that everything can be worked out between you two!