1 year ago
I think it depends entirely on the guy. My wife and I are open almost all the time with what we're feeling, even if it's informing the other about something that irritates us or that we would like done differently. The most important part of that I'd say falls into two pieces of advice. 1) Make sure you're BOTH comfortable, so talk about it in an environment where you both feel safe, use language that is gentle but still conveys the seriousness of the conversation, and ALWAYS abort if he shuts down. 2) Possibly most important, be sure that whatever he says or whatever his feelings are, you respond calmly, understandingly, and validate it even if you disagree. Remember, feelings are never wrong and no one can control them. This applies to everything, especially before you actually start talking about feelings. Guys need to feel safe and understood before we open up, but when we do it gets deep.
Good luck, you got this!
Connor
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