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After you've initiated sex, how do you turn it down (assuming you're having a personal problem, like feeling gaseous) without having to tell the reason why and not making your partner feel rejected?

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10 months ago

I just tell her. We die laughing and then it starts right back to where we stopped lol

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10 months ago

Tell the truth! Even in the early stages of a relationship, being honest is super important, even if it feels awkward. Apart from that, you are a human being. I cannot even count the times i had sex with him while gassy or the times we farted on sex. It's not gross when it is with your partner, its intimate

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10 months ago

Just try and be as honest as you possibly can and don't be afraid or embarrassed to tell your partner what the reason truthfully is on why you can't perform in the bedroom honesty is key to a healthy and meaningful relationship

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10 months ago

I'm honest with him, but I never turn down sex especially when I start it 😉

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10 months ago

Just be honest

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10 months ago

Be honest, explain why everyone has personal issues. Especially gas. Your partner will understand.

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10 months ago

Communication is key. You have to be honest, and if they are your partner then they should understand

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10 months ago

I've been in the exact same position... Be honest, don't just stop everything... but also compensate so he (mainly him I'd say) and you still get pleasure if you know what I mean :)

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10 months ago

Say truth to your partner. But don't turn down sex immediately.I will continue for some time due to this

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10 months ago

I just say no I dont feel up to it

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10 months ago

Just simply tell him or her u have to do all the work 🤷🏾‍♂️ And lay back and get ready to forget why u was even mad in the first place 😏

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10 months ago

Tell him the truth if am still uncomfortable he waits for another time

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10 months ago

Fight through it and bare it until sex is over.

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10 months ago

I just tell my husband the trust.

Sandee - 45yo - level 39 -
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10 months ago

Started feeling sick to my stomach

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10 months ago

I just tell him the truth. Maybe the Day after we talk about again when we are not in the heat of the moment just to be clear that he does not feel rejected.

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10 months ago

Be straight forward with my reasoning in having to retract the offer

Jessica - 26yo - level 28 -
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10 months ago

Gotta be open to your partner

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10 months ago

You’ve got to be open and honest. If you’re in a caring relationship, it will not make them feel rejected.

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10 months ago

I be honest and tell her i dont feel good and then make up for it asap or just dont let the sickness take over

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10 months ago

Explaining that your not in the mood

Brandon - 34yo - level 24 -
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10 months ago

We don’t stop lol

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10 months ago

I say I dont feel well

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10 months ago

I agree with the lot of them. Just be honest with your partner. 😎👍🏼 Remember this, being honest creates and maintains strong relationships, especially if you plan to be with them for all and eternity ♾❤️♾

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10 months ago

"I want you so bad, but let's wait until tomorrow."

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10 months ago

Be honest with your partner. They will understand.

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10 months ago

Send it and laugh !

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10 months ago

Just say no and set a rain check

Barry - 54yo - level 2 -
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10 months ago

Unfair to turn it down after initiating it. However I guess one could say they are tired.

Christie - 51yo - level 1 -
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10 months ago

You don't turn it down. You leave and blast your ass in a different room and then come back.

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10 months ago

Plenty other ways to finish the job with minimal effort.

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10 months ago

I dunno if u still want to or not but my stomachs upset right now hun

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10 months ago

Be honest about not being up to it without too much detail, then offer to take care of the need in another way.

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10 months ago

Stopping it after you started it, then not telling the true reason, could make him feel he’s done something wrong or turned you off in some way. He could get a complex & become insecure when it was your problem all along. Honesty is always the right choice.

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10 months ago

Not in mood

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10 months ago

I would just tell them. No need to give specifics, unless you want to. “I’m not feeling great.”

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10 months ago

So, hey listen I feel like shit can we rain check? tends to work.

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10 months ago

The other 2 say honesty. I say lie. Lol.
But not really. White lie.
Be honest and say something is up with you but lie for your own comfort. I get UTI bladder infections and sometimes it just hurts so ive used that when its not been fully true .. And it gets you to the bathroom. Or sick to stomach. . Idk thats what iii would do.

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10 months ago

And i want to ad, my partner and i are extremely close and overly honest with eachother, embarrassment isnt my motive. But at times like that you dont want to kill the mood or have that be something to come back up in convo. And my husband would be 100percent okay with the lie.

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10 months ago

Honesty is always the best. I know you might not feel comfortable with discussing it, but if you can it just might help make your bond stronger. -i never thought I'd be ok discussing those types of things with my boyfriend. Till one day he walked in while I was #2 and wouldn't leave. Said I have to get comfortable with him in all aspects if our lives.

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