2 years ago
I'm also very reserved, and quiet., especially when conflict arises with my wife. We've been married 31 years, and are still learning about each other daily. For example, I just realized (a couple years ago) that my wife processes ideas verbally. I don't. I think and analyze, and by the time I'm ready to share, my wife has often moved on, or interrupts when I take a long pause between thoughts. It helped me, a lot, when my wife explained how important it is that I share (speak). It's still something we have to work at, though. You might want to explore ways the two of you can practice sharing ideas and listening to each other. We bought "Our Moments Couples: 100 Thought Provoking Conversation Starters for Great Relationships - Fun Conversation Cards Game for Couples" in December. At supper we read and answer 1 or 2 questions, practicing speaking truth (even when it touches on private topics), active listening, and probing to understand and support each other. Sometimes we discuss a topic for a half hour (or 3 minutes). This type of activity might help you and your partner grow in your ability to communicate, too. Best wishes!
Jeff - 55yo - level 7 -