2 years ago
I think this is something that a lot of us guys deal with and that there are many, factors that go into why this happens. When you do go out with you friends what do you do? Hang out and watch the game, chill at their house, go to the bar? Then how crazy does it usually get? Pretty tame, or do you come home decently drunk or pretty smashed? Do you go to the bar and did you originally meet her at the bar? Cause maybe she sees going to the bar as a meeting of strangers who develop relationships kind of place rather than a place to just have fun.
Chuck - 35yo - level 8 -
Does she have trust issues from her past? Do you ever involve her in your guy time? Does she know your friends? Does she trust those friends?
I think a real conversation about how this is a concern for you maybe in order. One that’s starts off calm and not while this issue is happening when emotions might be running high. Or even a hand written letter where ideas and words can be carefully thought out and articulated well.
If handled well, this could be great place for your relationship to develop and grow in the right direction that is beneficial for both of you.
I hope this helps!