3 months ago
Time is the only ally you have my friend. It wouldnt matter if you gave her permission to have you followed, video-taped, agreed to have a polygraph administered at her whim, or any other means of transperancy she can think of. Unfortunately, because of someone else's bad deeds, her mind is continually cycling through some pretty unsavory scenarios. This is actually a kind of defense mechanism that she has deployed (probably without knowing it). She is still dealing with many emotions, one being ashamed of herself for being "duped" by this person. So she needs to test you, and safeguard her heart at the same time. Time, and consistency of your actions, will wear down her subconscious need to be ready and prepared for the worst. Its too tiring for any of us to be on-guard for too long. Be there for her, show her you love her as you would if this hadnt become an issue, but at the same time do not compromise yourself in the interim. Stand when you need to if the envelope is pushed too far. Best of luck my friend!!
Sean - 53yo - level 28 -