11 months ago
We have been dating for a little more than 2 months, but even when we are exclusive, we are not "official" yet. I have a history of long unhealthy relationships, and before I meet my partner, I was in a break, I needed to be alone to heal and improve myself and my quality of life, and that break was long, a few years.
Bulma - 37yo - level 8 -
My partner is younger than me and he ended his most serious and longest relationship a few months before we meet. Neither of us were looking for a relationship, so we try to keep things one step at a time. Also, we both are super bussy with work and studies so we don't have too much time to spend together, but when we do is pure quality time.
I haven't told him that I love him because, even when I do feel love for him, is not as strong as it will be. And I know he is affraid of falling for me, as I am affraid of falling for him too. We are not in a hurry so we take our time.
He has told me that he loves me, at a month and a half of dating, but he was drunk at the phone! We talk about that (I don't drink) and that night his phone was stolen. He was ashamed of his attitude of calling me drunk at 3am, but he said he doesn't remember his confession. I think he was just ashamed and affraid of rejection or falling deeper for me. We resolved the issue talking with honesty about our goals with our current individual lives and our goals with our relationship. It was very healthy.
I don't know when we will say those 3 words to each other, but neither of us are in a hurry. We enjoy our time together and go one step at a time.
Please excuse my English, it is not my native language.