1 year ago
I would say that ithe first thing that always need to happen is that if you are unhappy with either your spouses parents or your own parents level of involvement in your relationship, then you need to let your spouse know. I know that my wife doesn’t like at least one of my parents and how involved they are, but she hasn’t talked to me about it at all.
Ben - 38yo - level 9 -
One you and your partner talk about how you are each feeling then you can come up with a plan as to how to approach your parents. No matter how you feel the one thing that you need to remember is that this situation is no different than any other relationship, if you don’t feel as though the benefits are outweighing the hassles and issues, then you need to decide if it may be better to cut off that relationship. Also, if your controlling parent isn’t willing to sit down and have a meaningful and adult conversation with you about how you are feeling then you should probably work on cutting them out of any involvement in your relationship anyway.