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We are in a LDR, and my guy has clearly told me that he cannot prioritise us for the next 2-3 years as he is very focused on his career. By not prioritising he means, he cannot go out of the way to do anything THAT REQUIRES TIME AS HE CAN'T GIVE ME TIME. But this is not to say he is misleading me, he has assured things would change after these years of struggle... Also my guy is a little devoid of emotions while m an over emotional person. Not to say he doesn't love me, but his Emotional quotient is low. Eg. often he cannot think of how to react in situations like when I'm crying. He tries to help me with his limited capacity, has a heart of gold but i feel lack of Emotional connectivity.

So in a situation like this, Is it possible to continue or is it better to part ways?
He did say we would talk on call/video call as and when possible but he can't do other things (surprise gifts,virtual dates, movies or anything that requires him to think creative) right now like other ppl in a LDR

Shubhashree - 25yo - level 32

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2 weeks ago

I am hoping LDR means long distance relationship and not Labor and Delivery Room? 😬

Heather - 43yo - level 10 -
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2 weeks ago

To expand on that because I hit send too soon, I would not put your life on pause. When you love someone, you can be focused on the relationship and the career. He would MAKE the time if you were a priority, imho. Keep in touch, revisit this, and if it were me I would see other people and allow him to realize what he is missing in you. 😘

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2 weeks ago

I have been there before and I also thought it was okay until it wasn't what I wanted and things did not work out. Then I met the most buisiest guy who made 10x more effort than he did because he saw my value and because this relationship is important to him. So like others have said, if a guy wants to be in a relationship TRUST that he will find time. If he doesn't, you deserve someone that sees your value and give you all the time you need. P.s. both times were LDR.

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2 weeks ago

I've been in a couple ldrs. Trust me when i say even when a guy says he is busy he will make time for you. For someone to basically say the next few years you are only worth a few phones calls that would tell you how he feels about you. Being devoid of emotions does not erase effort. Regardless of how busy a person is, if both of you have committed to each other as in agreed to be boyfriend and girlfriend, effort is the least he can put into it. With the help of technology there's so many things he could do with minimal effort that would mean alot. Send a short video on marco polo app every few days, send virtual postcards, send a few snapchats, how long does it take to sit down and send a thoughtful good morning or goodnight message, or a handwritten letter for that matter. Trust me when i say there is someone who will prioritize you TODAY. You. Priorize yourself enough to realize when your worth is not appreciated. Then someone will come around who values who you are, how you make them feel, and what you add to their life. Period. Love yourself enough to move on.

Antinia T. - 29yo - level 20 -
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1 month ago

Part ways til later in life don put yourself on the clearance rack

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