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I finally gave in and let my husband watch porn around me he was doing it behind my back so finally i Todd him you can watch porn, but he is and this site where you can request the girls to do what you want and i found out that he spent over a $100 on this site , and now he watches it all the time i caught him watching it while we were making love , does this mean that im not enough for him or im not desireable to him anymore or that our sex is not working and he just won't tell me. I wish i never said yes too him watching porn. Please i need the truth some honest insight on what does this mean .

Quintana - 43yo - in a relationship for 12 years - Married - 2 - Ceres ca, United States - level 11

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1 month ago

In relationships people want stability yet variety. Your husband is clearly no different. He wants the stability of marriage, of the love and care that you provide with the relationship but he also wants variety, which he chose to get from porn. It doesn't mean he has lost sexual interest in you, it just means that he's looking for something different. And really, just a click away and he could get all the variety and excitement he wants.

Now what can you do?

First, make him feel desired, wanted, needed. There's nothing more sexually arousing for a man that the feeling of being desired and wanted. Evolutionary biology. Why do men get aroused when just by hearing women moan? They feel they're doing a good job? Why do porn videos have thumbnails with actresses looking at the camera? Cause it feels like they are looking at you, they want you. So do this. Make him feel wanted in more than just sexual ways. Think house chores related to strength, etc.

Second, YOUR BODY. Take care of your body, eat well, exercise. Look good, dress well, both outside and inside the bedroom.

Third, SURPRISE and VARIETY. Surprise him some nights with sexy lingeries and make love. Some nights just wear something sexy and tease him by slipping into the bed not initiating something yourself. Let him crave YOUR BODY. Behave like a naughty and horny teenager sometime. Give him a surprise bj in the middle of something, in a car park, public toilet, while he's working on his computer at home (make sure whatever he's doing is not too important or he won't be able to properly divert his attention and enjoy. Switch bed room roles submissive/dominant.

Most importantly, make him want you more than you want him.

If he likes watching videos of other women then email him a sexy video of yours like you want him, just like the girls in those porn ads. It will drive him crazy.

I think this enough. Can't write a lot here. Hope

Qutub - 22yo - level 21 -
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1 week ago

K so... I'll start by saying this, as a guy, its hard Not to watch porn. Heck, I know a few females that watch it just as much as myself, but as i was saying, guys that watch open, Need to watch porn. You could be everything your husband has ever wanted, and he would still watch porn. Whether he still finds you desirable is something completely unrelated to the porn watching. That is as long as its just PORN. I like putting on a video and see if my gf and i can do what the people in the video ate doing. Thats always fun. Now as far as paying to watch a Webcam model..... Thats a bit different. I pay for a premium account on my preferred site, but I've never been into webcam models. That is something I urge you to talk to your husband about. Tell him how it makes you feel, which is undesirable/unwanted. Tell him you dont mind the open, but suggest that the money he spends on web camming be used for something the two of you can do. Go to a sex shop and each but something, have a few drinks and then rent a hotel room somewhere nice during the week. So what if you have work the next day, this is about having fun and re sparking the connect you have with him. Make an effort to look sexy, and tell him you want to feel him in you. Anything that would make any guy ready to go. And dont ever think its you, that you're not enough. Its him. As we get older we feel less desirable just like you. We worry that we arent enough to satisfy you. And as a result we end up making you feel the same way. Just make gim feel wanted and he'll have no problem making you feel the same way back. Good luck.

Jason - 34yo - level 17 -
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1 month ago

After 12 years things have probably gotten pretty routine in the bedroom, maybe even kinda boring?? Once or twice a week get a little crazy, role play, light some candles, sexy lingerie, tell him what u want and how bad u want it. Watch the porn with him, get in the mood, shut the porn off & make love.

As far as him blowing over a $100 is total bullshit though...

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