6 months ago
I highly suggest finding his love language and taking a look at the “Enneagram”. Figure out what might be causing the root of your “disconnect”. It works wonders just to understand the differences in your personality styles. Try to communicate in a way that is most meaningful to him. Also, remember these 4 basic concepts, it will be life changing. 1. Be curious, not critical. 2. Be careful, not crushing. 3. Ask don’t assume. 4. Connect before you correct. These have been drastically helpful in my relationship. My husband and I have gone through some real doozies. It’s only by the Grace of God and through these 4 carefully cultivated skills that we’ve grown in our love and connection. He’s not a super affectionate guy and that is my love language. If you’re more interested about the 4 skills, I highly recommend looking up the Ted Talk “4 Habits of all successful Relationships”. May God bless and heal your situation. I wish you genuine joy, in abundance!
Haley - 28yo - level 8 -