3 weeks ago
Jeffrey, Not only am I married to someone who has a hard time expressing his feelings, but I’m also a life coach and see this in my practice. As a coach, I would explain it to you this way. Safety is very important to have in any relationship., keep that in tact. Which means, staying calm and grounded. Feelings travel faster than thoughts. And when that happens we either control or collapse. Do your best to remain neutral, especially when she’s not opening-up. Stepping back and letting here know you are there to listen, when she is ready to share, will help build that safety too . Not only letting her know, but showIng her the love you have for her is unconditional.
Janine - 49yo - level 37 -
Ask question like. Will you help me understand how you are feeling? How does that make you feel? What is true for you? But always speak your truth too, Jeffery. After she shares, thank her for doing so and stay calm No matter what she shares with you.
Your girlfriend, like most of us, were never taught emotional weightlifting, which gives us the courage to speak our truth. Our emotions are a message to us. I would also suggest the two of you start meditating, which helps quiet the mind and reduce fear from our thoughts and bodies. Maybe this can be something the two of you can do together. I hope the few little nuggets I shared help. Find the joy in the journey, regardless of the conditions. Once I started doing that, in my marriage, my marriage started shifting in a better direction. Thank you for sharing your question with this community! Sending loving vibes to you all!!❤️