6 months ago
I have kinda been where you are at. By that I mean when me and my husband met 13 years ago, he was in a relationship and I had never cheated or been the other woman but for some reason his charm won me over. I chose to be the other women. He eventually left her and we have been married for the last 5 years. I was in love and followed my heart instead of my values and beliefs. So with that being said, I should have seen all the signs then of what kind of man he is and what kind of relationship we would have. First of all if he cheated to be with me, should have known he is capable of cheating on me. If he can lie straight to her face and not even flinch and allow her to believe they are fine and then up and start a 2nd life with me he is capable of doing the same to me. When he would tell me all the reasons he loves me and wants me and is choosing me over her, he will tell the next girl that catches his fancy all those same things he told me about his ex to the new one about me. All these years later yes we are married, still live under the same roof. And you know what more times than not I am his wife yet still the other woman. He won't leave e because we are married and I have his only children, we have a few good moments every now and then, but that spark that walked me out of who I was and into who I have became in this life is gone. Carefully evaluate yourself. What you believe in and how much you are really willing to not just tolerate but sacrifice of yourself for your love for this man. For me in hind sight I know the cost has been too high, there is no longer even a glimpse of the woman I once was, only the woman I have became sacrificing piece by piece myself for the love, that yes I still have, for a man that may love me the best he knows how but will never truly be mine.
Sabrina - 40yo - level 5 -