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Should your husband still buy you a gift if you are both broke?

Quintana - 43yo - in a relationship for 12 years - Married - 2 - Ceres ca, United States - level 11

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10 months ago

A gift can be a video, a letter, a picture, is the meaning not the cost

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8 months ago

I think that falls in the category of if it can be done and he wants to do it. It should be more about the desire to do for your partner than the cost. So he could still do something homemade that could be meaningful as a gift or if he can find a way to do it without putting you guys behind. But he has to want to do it just like you should want to do something for him. Making it a requirement is what could cause problems in the long run.

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8 months ago

No, make a homemade gift, like make dinner for her.

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8 months ago

If it don’t put you in a hole then it should be okay but there are thoughtful ways to do things without money

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8 months ago

Dick in a box

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8 months ago

Don't even have to wrap it lol

Quintana - 43yo - in a relationship for 12 years - Married - 2 - Ceres ca, United States - level 11 -
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8 months ago

Just 3 easy steps! 😁

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8 months ago

I still crack up EVERY TIME I see that!!! HAHA

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8 months ago

Definitely not buying one, if you are broke.

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8 months ago

No, but maybe he could do something that he doesn't need to buy.

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8 months ago

Not all gifts are expensive so he could be creative and not spend money on a gift

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8 months ago

Yes don't have to be expensive

melissa - 37yo - level 15 -
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8 months ago

No he should find a free one or make one.

Nicole - 44yo - level 15 -
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8 months ago

I would love to see what he would make
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Quintana - 43yo - in a relationship for 12 years - Married - 2 - Ceres ca, United States - level 11 -
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8 months ago

Ofcourse not! And you shouldn’t expect anything if you are broke. Priorities first!
You could give him a gift like homemade dinner, stay in movie night etc to show that he isn’t pressured in having to get you materialistic gifts.

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8 months ago

Absolutely yes. Even if it's as simple as a chocolate bar from a gas station. Means he was thinking of you.

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8 months ago

I rather have his attention than any gift any day

Quintana - 43yo - in a relationship for 12 years - Married - 2 - Ceres ca, United States - level 11 -
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8 months ago

In my experience being broke makes for more thought out gifts. Pick wild flowers, get crafty. I doesn't take a lot of money to give a present. It's a matter of being mindful of the situation and the status of your account. In short yes you should still give a gift.

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8 months ago

If you are broke then no. Both sides should be understanding of that. Why not spend some time together watching a movie? Or maybe cook a meal together? Any time spent together for who I'm with is a gift in itself. A gift is all about perspective

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8 months ago

he is a gift to me already, He is the most treasured gift!

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8 months ago

I don't think so. A gift is something from the heart not from a store. A simple gesture is enough for me.

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8 months ago

No. There are plenty of ways you can show each other appreciation without spending money.

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8 months ago

No

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8 months ago

He can easily write a poem or love letter

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8 months ago

A gift doesn't have to be something that costs money! It's not always about money. Think about quality time together a movie in cooking dinner together a massage at home something like that!

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8 months ago

I think that he should at least do something to continuously make you feel special.

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8 months ago

Absolutely not he should make something an them gifts should be the best one anyways

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8 months ago

Don't purchase a gift. More like something from the heart. Spend time together. Go for a walk together. Sit and talk to each other. Give her a massage and vice versa. Do something for her that you'd wany done for you.

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8 months ago

I know that some people’s love language is giving/receiving gifts, but In my opinion, you don’t have to spend money (or a lot of money) on a personal gift. Like a lot of people said already, it could be something like cooking a special dinner, making a card. Gifts can be a lot more than material things. If money is tight, then it might be worth it to skip on the gift purchase this year.

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8 months ago

I would say no because there is so much more to give in a relationship than gifts. I think that if the situation arises during a special occasion our simple acts towards one anther should be enough.

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8 months ago

It's not about the price tag but rather about whether he or she tries for the gesture. So - yes!

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8 months ago

No. There a things that dont cost a thing that would mean just as much!

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8 months ago

Yes, a gift doesn’t have to be purchased. He can cook dinner or so do one of my chores and I’ll be happy with that.

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8 months ago

Something meaningful but doesn't break the bank

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8 months ago

Absolutely

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8 months ago

Obviously not...

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8 months ago

It all depends on what it is a box of chocolates or a card or maybe flowers for under 10$ can change everything in a day

JA💲PERS - 33yo - in a relationship for 14 years - Married - 3 - Rochester Mills, United States - level 19 -
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8 months ago

Buy no but still give gifts now and then

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8 months ago

If he knows you well enough, he can come up with something without spending money!

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8 months ago

Yea im happy when he surprises me with fruit or yogurt, but this is how he shows his love is when he buys things for me and if he is not expresses his self in another way . I tell him I rather have his attention and touching even just my arm or shoulder when it not in bed or during foreplay you don't know how much i miss that i tell him all the time you know he can stop alot of negitive thing if only he took me in his arms loved on me and I tell him that also.

Quintana - 43yo - in a relationship for 12 years - Married - 2 - Ceres ca, United States - level 11 -
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8 months ago

I think that he shouldn't buy a gift if money is super tight unless he worked an extra shift or sold something unneeded to get something special. It would be way better for him to make your day amazing with sweet actions.

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8 months ago

I dont think so. If you guys are struggling with money at the moment, it'd be better if he gave you something homemade, like cupcakes, a massage, a drawing etc.

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8 months ago

There are gifts that dont cost money...like massages or helping with household chores

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8 months ago

No, but he could write you something or make you a special meal or give a special massage, or plan a netflix and chill night or you know anything else that is free and shows you that he cares. Gifts aren't the important thing, the feelings behind them are, and those feelings can be shown in more than just the material way. Make sense?

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8 months ago

I think it's the thought that counts and making somthing homemade is much more thoughtful and it comes from the heart

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8 months ago

No

Jennifer - 50yo - level 48 -
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8 months ago

No, not buy you a gift. But non monetary gifts are awesome if you're broke!

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8 months ago

He doesn't necessarily have to buy something, it could be handmade and more personal

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8 months ago

Of course something cheap .. at least a card

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8 months ago

No. Just give them your time and attention. Watch a movie, give her a foot/back massage or draw her up a bath. No reason to spend money

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8 months ago

The two horsemen of the relationship epocalypse are "being broke" and "shit / no sex".
Probs shouldn't be drunk- buying $1000 shoes for her when hundreds of thou in debt.
The shoes can be used a gavel to sentence my guilty ass!

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8 months ago

Yes but meaningful gifts

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8 months ago

Not a "store bought" gift but he can still do something nice for/with you that doesn't cost a thing! Usually much more enjoyable to me anyways

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8 months ago

No need to spend any money and become further in debt. Instead, be creative and write a love note. Or make something from materials you already have at the house. It’ll probably mean more anyway.

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8 months ago

If nothing else such as bills k r other necessities are sue them i dont see the pronlem but if there are then that the priority!!

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8 months ago

No and you should be understanding about it

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8 months ago

Yes, give her a gift! But no, it doesn't have to cost much if anything. We still have the little bookshelf I made my wife for the first Christmas after we were married 30 years ago! I bought the lumber for nearly nothing from the cut pieces at Home Depot.

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8 months ago

Love is the greatest gift of all.

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8 months ago

It doesnt always need to be expensive.

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8 months ago

I would say homemade. Thatsvwhat i do. Ever read short story called "the gift of magi"

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8 months ago

Money means nothing.. the perfect gift is priceless

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8 months ago

A very small gift ❤️

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8 months ago

Up to him as there was after all a breakup.

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8 months ago

It's the thought and effort which counts. The same if it was a wife buying for the husband, price doesn't matter as long as there is emotion and sentimate behind the action.

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8 months ago

Yes. They find the money for other stuff so they should find the money for this.

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8 months ago

It depends...its always the thought, not the cost. Sometimes just a bite of chocolate is a very romantic gift.

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8 months ago

Read everyone's response on here, they are all right. That is your answer_

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8 months ago

Probs not.. broke means not enough. A romantic gesture is is cheaper and more thoughtful.

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8 months ago

If money is that much of a concern then the gift doesnt have to be from money.. he could make something..cook something.. write something..be above the material objects amd accept gifts of love in other ways .. u both should make it a thing this holiday to write yur gifts or make them up online but u get the point..good luck

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8 months ago

Yes absolutely

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8 months ago

Yes because it shows her you still love and care about her

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8 months ago

Gifts are free even when broke- homemade anything is worth more than commercialized items.

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8 months ago

NOT AS A REQUIREMENT, BUT IF HE CAN SWING ONE, HELL ABSOULETY!

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8 months ago

A homemade, thoughtful gift can be the best gift regardless of if you are broke or not.

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8 months ago

I would make a gift

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8 months ago

A gift doesn’t have to cost money. It can be hand made, a poem or something just to say I was thinking of you

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8 months ago

No make a gift at home

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8 months ago

Send me a kiss on the postcard

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8 months ago

Yes

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8 months ago

It shouldn't be expected because that would make it so that a person takes it for granted. Things like this should never be taken for granted

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8 months ago

Not necessarily buy! This has happened with me and my husband a lot when we were younger and sometimes it’s best to receive something from the heart! Not many men know how to five something heart felt so enjoy it if he offers it

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8 months ago

No

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8 months ago

No not at all

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8 months ago

Just his time should be good enough

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8 months ago

Yes, it doesn’t have to cost anything but being thoughtful means everything

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8 months ago

All depends on the occasion. Christmas, birthday, absolutely. Just a random gift...no. But if you are broke, get your tired ass out there and get that paper.

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8 months ago

Being broke requires getting a bit more creative in your gift giving, but if it is how you receive love (through gifts) then yes, most definitely. No one needs to break the bank but there are many ways to give a gift on a budget.

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8 months ago

It's more of the thought that's behind it. Being broke just means the gift has to be creative or meaningful to her. Making her breakfast in bed or a nice dinner could be an idea.

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8 months ago

It’s time to make it really romantic with very little financial outlay

Quite often it’s not the cost but the thought gone into it

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8 months ago

Depends on what you consider a gift cus I could put a bow on anything 😉

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8 months ago

Buy? No. Absolutely not. He can make a gift or give an act of service

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8 months ago

No the gift does not mean spending money. Make something rather it's a card or letter anything. It's the thought that counts to me and the effort not how much money is spent

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8 months ago

He should use wisdom, a gift from the heart (homemade) would be best in my opinion.

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8 months ago

No. That’s not what’s best for you both. A gesture is better than a gift.

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8 months ago

A day of him pampering u at home...

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8 months ago

Yes

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8 months ago

There is no need to buy a gift when you can make or do things that are free- pick some flowers, light a candle and make a nice dinner, write a love letter- and actually these things are so much nicer and more thoughtful!

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8 months ago

Only if it's really cheap

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8 months ago

That seems like something you'll have to figure out together. Ideally, you can discuss it and agree on a course of action. A handmade gift, an IOU for a massage from him, or the gift of his time, etc, could be a great alternative if gifts are important to you but money is tight. It may be helpful to remember that being broke now doesn't mean you'll be broke forever, so it doesn't mean he'll never get you anything ever. And if you can emotionally accept that skipping the gift doesn't mean he loves you less, that would be great. But if you can't, that's something to discuss lovingly ahead of time: better to be honest than resent the situation later.

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8 months ago

My partner and I are from different countries so have vastly different incomes. I really enjoy buying her gifts (even when I can’t really afford it) but she always reacts better to the stuff I make her over the stuff I buy her. It’s more difficult for her to buy me things, but whatever she does buy she personalises it which just makes it more special and I love it.
Think of how you can have a gift that isn’t monetary based, or, if having a bought gift is really important to you both, discuss beforehand what gifts (and prices) would be appropriate for the both of you <3

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8 months ago

There are plenty of gifts that can be given that are free. One of my favorite to receive is his time and attention.

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8 months ago

That would be better then any gift

Quintana - 43yo - in a relationship for 12 years - Married - 2 - Ceres ca, United States - level 11 -
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8 months ago

Not a piece of jewelry or monetary gift but if youd like something there is plenty he can still do. A massage.. a night at the beach watching the sunset. A drawing

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8 months ago

Can a small one especially if there's a actual need that's useful

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8 months ago

No I don't expect my husband to buy me a gift of we can't afford it. That is part of the Sarah realities of life and priorities. They come first and I have more respect for my husband for taking care of our priorities over a senseless gift that is possible bought in Vein.

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8 months ago

No, as a matter of fact, my girl and I enjoy gifts from the heart more than purchased gifts, because that's exactly what they are...gifts from the heart.

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8 months ago

Nah

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